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Q&A with Falia: Why Women and Guns Do Mix
Posted last week, her video about concealed carry clothing for women created quite a stir online because it featured her wearing holsters in different outfits (some leaving little to the imagination, as plenty of women’s clothing does).
The CCW advocate and blogger has set out to share information with other females. However, her video, which now has more than 3,000 views, received a lot more unwanted attention from the opposite sex.
Find out what she thinks about women, guns and her newfound YouTube popularity.
You clean houses for a living. Do you carry on the job?
Sometimes. It depends on the season (summer or winter), and also whether or not I will be cleaning the house alone or not. If someone is home while I’m cleaning, I usually lock my gun in my vehicle since I don’t want to advertise to my clients that I carry a gun, and it really becomes much more visible when I am crouching and bending a lot. If I know I will be cleaning at a house alone, I do tend to wear my inside-the-waistband (IWB) or outside-the-waistband (OWB) holster.
I also carry more while cleaning in the winter, since in the summer I wear shorts a lot, and I haven’t figured out a good shorts method of carry yet. It gets HOT cleaning in the summer, especially if people don’t have air conditioning in their home. I would REALLY like to carry more in the summer months, so I’m soon going to try out the Smart Carry Holster as a shorts option.
Are you still living in your van?
Technically, yes, but I’m not currently on the road/traveling to new places. So I sort of feel as though I’ve been “cheating,” if that makes any sense. I’ve been staying in a familiar area for quite a while now in order to have some steady work and save up some money. That means van life has been a lot easier lately than when I’m on the road in unfamiliar places.
Since I’ve got several friends in this area, I’ve had access to several different showering options and also consistent, safe places to park overnight. I’ve also currently got some space in a friend’s house where I’ve been storing my guns, survival preps and cleaning supplies, which is great because I hate leaving my guns in my vehicle.
Being on the road so much, it’s really hard owning so many guns. I need to eventually get my own piece of land/retreat with a secure storage unit of some kind to store my important stuff at while I’m traveling around. I’m often paranoid about my vehicle getting stolen or broken into.
How did you become interested in firearms and holsters?
I guess I first became interested in firearms because some of my guy friends were really into guns, and they made me kind of curious. I didn’t know anything about guns at first. I didn’t know that a 12-gauge was a shotgun; I didn’t know the difference between slugs or buckshot, or even what different size calibers there were for handguns.
I remember when I first got online and starting researching the basics. I Googled the difference between types of ammo (wadcutters, full-metal jackets, jacketed hollow points, etc.) and also the actual definition of a handgun, pistol, revolver and semi-automatic! I had no clue. The more I started learning, the more my curiosity turned into a feeling of necessity, like I needed to learn about guns and how to shoot in case of an emergency. I felt ignorant about guns and instead wanted to be an informed American citizen who could responsibly exercise her Second Amendment right to keep and bear firearms.
After I had learned a lot from online research and also my male friends, I felt such an urgency to take a CCW training course and get my concealed carry weapon permit while it was still legal to do so, because that right could get taken away from us at any time. Then after getting my CPL, I realized that there wasn’t much info online for women, helping with concealed carry options and such. That’s what compelled me to share what I’ve learned about guns and different holsters with other women!
Not many women carry, and I believe that women are the ones who need to carry the most…
Why do you think women are afraid of guns?
Well, it’s probably because they don’t know much about them and aren’t familiar with them. Guns can be extremely loud. The recoil can be shocking if you aren’t prepared for it. Many guys pressure their wives or girlfriends to shoot, and then shooting seems more scary and forced instead of being a desire to learn to shoot. Guns are powerful weapons that can kill people, and that can be something to fear!
The thing is, guns don’t kill people. People kill people. Saying that “guns kill people” is like saying that “matches commit arson.” A gun is a tool that be used to harm, but it is also a tool that can be used to protect. Once a woman is taught the proper way to handle a gun and check to see if it is unloaded, I think she loses a lot of the fear that she had previously.
With knowledge of gun use, my fear turned more into a respect for the gun. The fundamental National Rifle Association rules for safe gun handling: Always keep the gun pointed in safe direction, always keep your finger off the trigger until ready to shoot, and always keep the gun unloaded until ready to use.
Also, even if a woman isn’t necessarily afraid of guns, I just don’t think women are naturally interested in guns because guns tend to be more a “guy thing.” Not many girls round up their girlfriends and say: “Hey, let’s go out shooting!” Even when I get together with my girlfriends, we tend to go shopping or pamper ourselves with foot soaks and facial masks. I think if a woman doesn’t have a male friend who is interested in guns, it can be hard for her to get interested in guns on her own. It sure does help to have someone who can teach you about firearms and let you shoot some of their guns to start out.
Hopefully more women start to recognize that guns are not something to fear, and a higher rate of gun ownership leads to a safer society. A quote comes to mind by Robert Heinlein: “An armed society is a polite society.” If you are a beginner, remember to start out with a small caliber (22) and work your way up from there as you get more comfortable and want to practice with more power. You don’t want to start out with a caliber that might be too powerful for you (45), because that might cause you to develop a bad flinching habit.
Why is concealed carry important to you?
Concealed carry is important to me because I value my life and the lives of others. I want to be able to defend myself, my friends, my family and even strangers, if I ever need to. Hopefully I will never have to use my gun, but I would rather carry it and never need it, than need it and not have it.
This question reminds me of something I just read in my American Rifleman magazine: “When seconds count, the police are only minutes away.” I do not want to put my life in the hands of police. I want to always be ready and prepared for the worst, and I want others to be prepared, too.
What is your ideal carry outfit?
Teva Mush flip-flops, comfy American Eagle jeans, a black leather belt, IWB Crossbreed Supertuck holster, a tank top, and a zip-up hoodie over top. I am all about comfort and relaxation. :-)
What do you have to say to those who have commented on your videos, objectifying you rather than seeing your videos as informative?
You know, it really does get extremely tiring and frustrating for me. There really are a lot of perverts out there who comment. They just “turn off the sound” while watching my videos, along with the many sexist men who don’t even believe that women should carry guns. I’ve gotten comments such as “Why don’t you just find yourself a man if you want protection,” “You should just stick to baking,” “Women can’t drive and sure as hell can’t shoot,” and “Women should be homemakers, not gun carriers.”
It makes me sick, sad, and angry, all at the same time! I don’t know how their minds got to be so warped, but we are living in an age where I believe that women have more of a reason to conceal-carry guns than men do! That is why I have started making gun-related videos: To help other women who want to conceal carry, but struggle with similar wardrobe problems, so that they feel more comfortable in their ability to carry their firearm with them.
Men should not have a reason to watch my videos more than once, and believe me, if I could make my videos available to ONLY WOMEN, I would! It sure would save me a lot of headache. That is just not feasible, and I feel that this is a topic that the Internet (and society) is lacking in regards to providing helpful female information. For the most part, women’s clothing is completely dysfunctional/impractical when it comes to concealing a gun. Our clothes are cute, yes, but our pockets are all extremely tiny! Flattering pants are fitted, leaving not much room to hide a gun, and often our pants are lacking belt-loops. Skinny jeans are back in style. Dresses and skirts pose a challenge. And what about in the summer? Many girls like shorts and tank tops and don’t want to look frumpy and out of place, especially for the sole purpose of carrying a gun that will probably never get used.
Obviously men are going to find my videos on YouTube, and many of them will gawk, stare, hit replay, or make lewd and sexist remarks. As much as I would love to whack those guys over the head with a frying pan to knock some sense into them, I will just continue to bite my tongue and hit “delete.” As hard as they can be to ignore, I know it’s not even worth it to give them my time of day because those types of men will never understand that Second Amendment applies to both men and women. They won’t ever care about the challenges that women face in the world of concealed carry.
Thankfully, I do get enough positive feedback (from both men and women) that I know my videos are helping some other people out there, and that is what makes it worthwhile for me to leave them up on YouTube. I do wish that other women would post videos showing how they conceal carry, too, since I am not that thrilled to be the only girl out there with this type of video. Maybe if more women started posting concealed-carry videos, then more men would accept the fact that women and guns DO mix. :).